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DefinitionA frightening or terrifying dream. (The word "nightmare" comes from the Old English word "mare" (or goblin) which meant an evil spirit or demon haunting people in their sleep.)

1. We have nothing to fear because God has promised us protection against nightmares.

Psalm 4:8 I will both lay me down in peace, and sleep: for Thou, Lord, only makest me dwell in safety.
Psalm 91:5a,6a Thou shalt not be afraid for the terror by night … 6a Nor for the pestilence that walketh in darkness.
Proverbs 3:24 When thou liest down, thou shalt not be afraid: yea, thou shalt lie down, and thy sleep shall be sweet.
2 Timothy 1:7 For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.
1 John 4:4 Ye are of God, little children, and have overcome them: because greater is He that is in you, than he that is in the world.
1 John 4:18a There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear.

2. We shouldn't feel intimidated or condemned by nightmares, but recognize them as the spiritual attacks of the Enemy that they are, and resist and overcome them with the Lord's help.

1 Corinthians 10:13 There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, Who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.
1 Peter 5:8,9a Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the Devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour: 9a Whom resist steadfast in the faith.

3. Sometimes bad dreams can be triggered by bad experiences or sights, so avoid these, if possible.

Psalm 101:3a I will set no wicked thing before mine eyes: ... it shall not cleave to me.
Psalm 119:37 Turn away mine eyes from beholding vanity; and quicken Thou me in Thy way.
Romans 12:9b Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good.
1 Peter 1:13a Wherefore gird up the loins of your mind.
4. Some bad dreams result from simple, natural causes, or can be spiritually meaningless.
Ecclesiastes 5:3a [Going to sleep with our minds still filled with concerns of the day:] For a dream cometh through the multitude of business.
Ecclesiastes 5:7 For in the multitude of dreams and many words there are also divers vanities: but fear thou God.
Isaiah 29:8a [Something we ate or some unmet physical need:] It shall even be as when an hungry man dreameth, and, behold, he eateth; but he awaketh, and his soul is empty: or as when a thirsty man dreameth, and, behold, he drinketh; but he awaketh, and, behold, he is faint, and his soul hath appetite.

5. Some troublesome dreams may actually be from the Lord, but these clearly differ from nightmares in that they always have a purpose, either prophetic, or to warn, or to offer positive lessons.

Genesis 40:5-23 [Joseph interpreted the troubling dreams of others:] And they dreamed a dream both of them, each man his dream in one night, each man according to the interpretation of his dream, the butler and the baker of the king of Egypt, which were bound in the prison. 6 And Joseph came in unto them in the morning, and looked upon them, and, behold, they were sad. [The dreams, which were from the Lord, were fulfilled, one a dream of blessing and the other, a dream of judgment]
Genesis 41:1,8,32 And it came to pass at the end of two full years, that Pharaoh dreamed: and, behold, he stood by the river. … 8 And it came to pass in the morning that his spirit was troubled; and he sent and called for all the magicians of Egypt, and all the wise men thereof: and Pharaoh told them his dream; but there was none that could interpret them unto Pharaoh. … [But Joseph interpreted it, saying:] 32 And for that the dream was doubled unto Pharaoh twice; it is because the thing is established by God, and God will shortly bring it to pass. [This dream helped preserve Egypt, as well as Joseph's family, in time of famine]
Job 4:13-17 In thoughts from the visions of the night, when deep sleep falleth on men, 14 Fear came upon me, and trembling, which made all my bones to shake. 15 Then a spirit passed before my face; the hair of my flesh stood up: 16 It stood still, but I could not discern the form thereof: an image was before mine eyes, there was silence, and I heard a voice, saying, 17 Shall mortal man be more just than God? Shall a man be more pure than His Maker?
Job 7:13,14 When I say, My bed shall comfort me, my couch shall ease my complaint; 14 Then Thou scarest me with dreams, and terrifiest me through visions.
Isaiah 21:4 [The prophet received a frightful message of the judgment of Babylon from the Lord, which greatly disturbed his sleep:] My heart panted, fearfulness affrighted me: the night of my pleasure hath He turned into fear unto me.
Daniel 2:1 And in the second year of the reign of Nebuchadnezzar Nebuchadnezzar dreamed dreams, wherewith his spirit was troubled, and his sleep brake from him.
Matthew 27:19 When he [Pilate] was set down on the judgment seat, his wife sent unto him, saying, Have thou nothing to do with that just Man: for I have suffered many things this day in a dream because of Him.

6. Our first and surest defense against nightmares is to pray against them!

Psalm 34:4 I sought the Lord, and He heard me, and delivered me from all my fears.
Matthew 18:18a Verily I say unto you, Whatsoever ye shall bind on earth shall be bound in Heaven.
Matthew 18:19 [Ask others to pray with you:] Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of My Father which is in Heaven.
Ephesians 6:12,13,16,18 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. 13 Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. ... 16 Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked. ... 18 Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all
Philippians 4:6-7 Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. 7 And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

7. We should also specifically ask the Lord for positive, edifying, faith-building dreams, which God has promised to give to His children.

Numbers 12:6b I the Lord will make myself known unto him in a vision, and will speak unto him in a dream.
Job 33:15-17 In a dream, in a vision of the night, when deep sleep falleth upon men, in slumberings upon the bed; 16 Then He openeth the ears of men, and sealeth their instruction, 17 That He may withdraw man from his purpose, and hide pride from man.
Jeremiah 23:28a The prophet that hath a dream, let him tell a dream; and he that hath My Word, let him speak My Word faithfully.
Joel 2:28 And it shall come to pass afterward, that I will pour out My Spirit upon all flesh; and your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, your old men shall dream dreams, your young men shall see visions.
8. We should meditate on the Lord and His Word as we go to sleep.
Psalm 17:4b By the Word of Thy lips I have kept me from the paths of the Destroyer.
Psalm 43:2b,3 Why go I mourning because of the oppression of the enemy? 3 O send out Thy light and Thy truth: let them lead me; let them bring me unto Thy holy hill, and to Thy tabernacles.
Psalm 63:6,7 When I remember Thee upon my bed, and meditate on Thee in the night watches. 7 Because Thou hast been my help, therefore in the shadow of Thy wings will I rejoice.
Psalm 94:19 In the multitude of my thoughts within me Thy comforts delight my soul.
Psalm 104:34 My meditation of Him shall be sweet: I will be glad in the Lord.
Proverbs 6:22 When thou goest, it [the Word] shall lead thee; when thou sleepest, it shall keep thee; and when thou awakest, it shall talk with thee.
Isaiah 26:3 Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on Thee: because he trusteth in Thee.

9. We must not dwell on nightmares we may have had.

Psalm 119:37 Turn away mine eyes from beholding vanity; and quicken Thou me in Thy way.
Ephesians 4:27 Neither give place to the Devil.
Philippians 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
Philippians 1:28a And in nothing terrified by your adversaries.

10. Here are a few more of the Lord's precious promises to claim for sweet dreams:

Deuteronomy 33:12a The beloved of the Lord shall dwell in safety by Him.
1 Kings 8:56a Blessed be the Lord, that hath given rest unto His people.
Job 11:18,19a And thou shalt be secure, because there is hope; yea, thou shalt dig about thee, and thou shalt take thy rest in safety. 19 also thou shalt lie down, and none shall make thee afraid.
Psalm 4:8 I will both lay me down in peace, and sleep: for Thou, Lord, only makest me dwell in safety.
Psalm 16:7 I will bless the Lord, Who hath given me counsel: my reins [heart] also instruct me in the night seasons.
Psalm 29:11 The Lord will give strength unto His people; the Lord will bless His people with peace.
Psalm 34:7 The angel of the Lord encampeth round about them that fear Him, and delivereth them.
Psalm 42:8 Yet the Lord will command His lovingkindness in the daytime, and in the night His song shall be with me, and my prayer unto the God of my life.
Psalm 55:18 He hath delivered my soul in peace from the battle that was against me: for there were many with me.
Psalm 139:2-3,18b Thou knowest my downsitting and mine uprising, Thou understandest my thought afar off. Thou compassest my path and my lying down, and art acquainted with all my ways. … 18b When I awake, I am still with Thee.
Ecclesiastes 5:12a The sleep of a labouring man is sweet, whether he eat little or much.
John 14:27 Peace I leave with you, My peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.
2 Peter 2:9a The Lord knoweth how to deliver the godly out of temptations.

Hebrews 4:9 There remaineth therefore a rest to the people of God.


Definition: The ability to change so as to fit a new specific use or situation.

1. Adaptability is an important and necessary quality for ministers of the Gospel.

1 Corinthians 9:19-23 For though I be free from all men, yet have I made myself servant unto all, that I might gain the more. 20 And unto the Jews I became as a Jew, that I might gain the Jews; to them that are under the law, as under the law, that I might gain them that are under the law; 21 To them that are without law, as without law, (being not without law to God, but under the law to Christ,) that I might gain them that are without law. 22 To the weak became I as weak, that I might gain the weak: I am made all things to all men, that I might by all means save some. 23 And this I do for the Gospel's sake, that I might be partaker thereof with you.
1 Corinthians 10:33 Even as I please all men in all things, not seeking mine own profit, but the profit of many, that they may be saved.

2. As situations and conditions change, we must adapt accordingly.

Ecclesiastes 3:1 To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the Heaven.
Matthew 9:14,15 Then came to Him the disciples of John, saying, Why do we and the Pharisees fast oft, but Thy disciples fast not? 15 And Jesus said unto them, Can the children of the bridechamber mourn, as long as the Bridegroom is with them? But the days will come, when the Bridegroom shall be taken from them, and then shall they fast.
Luke 9:3 and  22:35,36 And He said unto them, Take nothing for your journey, neither staves, nor scrip, neither bread, neither money; neither have two coats apiece. 22:35 And He said unto them, When I sent you without purse, and scrip, and shoes, lacked ye any thing? And they said, Nothing. 36 Then said He unto them, But now, he that hath a purse, let him take it, and likewise his scrip: and he that hath no sword, let him sell his garment, and buy one.

3. Jesus was the greatest sample of adaptability: The Son of God  also became the Son of Man.

John 1:14a And the Word [Jesus] was made flesh, and dwelt among us.
Philippians 2:5-8 Let this mind be in you, which was  also in Christ Jesus: 6 Who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God: 7 But made Himself of no reputation, and took upon Him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men: 8 And being found in fashion as a man, He humbled Himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross.
1 Timothy 3:16 And without controversy great is the mystery of Godliness: God was manifest in the flesh, justified in the Spirit, seen of angels, preached unto the Gentiles, believed on in the world, received up into glory.
[See also Hebrews 2:14]

4. Being adaptable often requires living above circumstances and conditions.

Philippians 4:11-13 Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content. 12 I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: every where and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. 13 I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.
[See also 1 Corinthians 4:9-13]

5. Adaptability means being open and willing to do things God's way.

Hebrews 6:3 And this will we do, if God permit.
James 4:13-15 Go to now, ye that say, To day or to morrow we will go into such a city, and continue there a year, and buy and sell, and get gain: 14 Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away. 15 For that ye ought to say, If the Lord will, we shall live, and do this, or that.
[See also Acts 18:21; Romans 1:9,10]

6. Adaptability means being willing to be fashioned -- or refashioned -- according to the Lord's will and plan.

Isaiah 64:8 But now, O Lord, Thou art our Father; we are the clay, and Thou our Potter; and we all are the work of Thy hand.
Jeremiah 18:4 And the vessel that he [the potter] made of clay was marred in the hand of the potter: so he made it again another vessel, as seemed good to the potter to make it.
Romans 9:20,21 Nay but, O man, who art thou that repliest against God? Shall the thing formed say to Him that formed it, Why hast Thou made me thus? 21 Hath not the potter power over the clay, of the same lump to make one vessel unto honour, and another unto dishonour?
Philippians 2:13 For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of His good pleasure.
7. Adaptability often requires humility.
Matthew 3:13-15 Then cometh Jesus from Galilee to Jordan unto John, to be baptized of him. 14 But John forbad Him, saying, I have need to be baptized of Thee, and comest Thou to me? 15 And Jesus answering said unto him, Suffer it to be so now: for thus it becometh us to fulfil all righteousness. Then he suffered Him.
John 3:30 He must increase, but I must decrease.
John 13:8-9 Peter saith unto Him, Thou shalt never wash my feet. Jesus answered him, If I wash thee not, thou hast no part with Me. 9 Simon Peter saith unto him, Lord, not my feet only, but  also my hands and my head.

8. Adaptability requires yielding your will and mind to God and His plans.

Romans 12:1,2 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. 2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
Romans 6:13 Neither yield ye your members as instruments of unrighteousness unto sin: but yield yourselves unto God, as those that are alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness unto God.
2 Corinthians 8:12 For if there be first a willing mind, it is accepted according to that a man hath, and not according to that he hath not.
1 Samuel 3:18b It is the Lord: let Him do what seemeth Him good.
Matthew 6:10b Thy [God's] will be done in earth, as it is in Heaven.
Matthew 26:39 And He went a little further, and fell on His face, and prayed, saying, O My Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from Me: nevertheless not as I will, but as Thou wilt.
Luke 1:38b Be it unto me according to Thy Word.


Definition: In the social sense, to be accepted is to be received by others in a positive way; to be considered worthy of friendship and respect.

1. The Lord understands our need to feel accepted.

Genesis 2:18 And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
Psalm 133:1 Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity!

2. Our desire for acceptance, like so many of our other needs, is one that the Lord Himself wants to be the first to meet.

Romans 5:8 [God accepts us as we are, and loves us in spite of our faults:] But God commendeth His love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.
Psalm 142:4,5 I looked on my right hand, and beheld, but there was no man that would know me: refuge failed me; no man cared for my soul. 5 I cried unto Thee, O Lord: I said, Thou art my refuge and my portion in the land of the living.
Isaiah 54:10 For the mountains shall depart, and the hills be removed; but My kindness shall not depart from thee, neither shall the covenant of My peace be removed, saith the Lord that hath mercy on thee.
 2 Timothy 4:16,17 All men forsook me: I pray God that it may not be laid to their charge. Notwithstanding the Lord stood with me, and strengthened me.
Hebrews 13:5b I [Jesus] will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.

3. Acceptance is a two-way street: if we want others to accept us, we also need to express to others that we love and accept them.

Matthew 7:12 Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets. [See also Luke 6:31]
Proverbs 18:24a [Take the initiative:] A man that hath [or seeks to have] friends must shew himself friendly.
Matthew 5:46-48 [Show tolerance and understanding:] For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? Do not even the publicans the same? 47 And if ye salute your brethren only, what do ye more than others? Do not even the publicans so? 48 Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in Heaven is perfect. [See also Luke 6:32-36]
1 Thessalonians 3:12 And the Lord make you to increase and abound in love one toward another, and toward all men, even as we do toward you. [See also 1 Peter 4:8]
James 3:17,18 But the wisdom that is from Above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy. 18 And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace.

4. We must not let our desire to be accepted by others supersede our desire to please the Lord.

John 12:42-43 Nevertheless among the chief rulers  also many believed on him; but because of the Pharisees they did not confess him, lest they should be put out of the synagogue: 43 For they loved the praise of men more than the praise of God.
2 Corinthians 5:9 Wherefore we labour, that, whether present or absent, we may be accepted of Him.
Galatians 1:10 For do I now persuade men, or God? Or do I seek to please men? For if I yet pleased men, I should not be the servant of Christ.
 1 Thessalonians 2:4 But as we were allowed of God to be put in trust with the Gospel, even so we speak; not as pleasing men, but God, which trieth our hearts.

5. If we put God first, He will see to it that we are accepted by those He wants us to be close to.

Romans 14:17,18 For the Kingdom of God is not meat and drink; but righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost. 18 For he that in these things serveth Christ is acceptable to God, and approved of men.
Matthew 6:33 But seek ye first the Kingdom of God, and His righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Proverbs 3:3,4 [Stay true to the standard of the Word:] Let not mercy and truth forsake thee: bind them about thy neck; write them upon the table of thine heart: 4 So shalt thou find favour and good understanding in the sight of God and man.
Proverbs 22:11 He that loveth pureness of heart, for the grace of his lips, the king shall be his friend.
Proverbs 16:7 When a man's ways please the Lord, He maketh even his enemies to be at peace with him.

6. Acceptance among Christians should be based on their mutual faith and love for the Lord.

1 John 4:21 And this commandment have we from Him, that he who loveth God love his brother  also.
1 Corinthians 12:25 That there should be no schism in the Body; but that the members should have the same care one for another.
Galatians 2:9 [Even though Paul, before he was saved, had been a persecutor of the Early Church, after his Salvation the apostles accepted him as brother for the Gospel's sake:] And when James, Cephas, and John, who seemed to be pillars, perceived the grace that was given unto me, they gave to me and Barnabas the right hands of fellowship; that we should go unto the heathen, and they unto the circumcision.
Galatians 3:26-28 For ye are all the children of God by faith in Christ Jesus. 27 For as many of you as have been baptized into Christ have put on Christ. 28 There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.
Ephesians 2:14 For He is our peace, Who hath made both [saved Jews and Gentiles] one, and hath broken down the middle wall of partition between us.
Ephesians 4:2,3 [Sometimes it takes a conscious effort to overlook differences. Paul says that we need to be] endeavouring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.

7. We can't expect, nor should we desire, to be accepted by the world and the wrong sort of people.

John 15:18,19 If the world hate you, ye know that it hated Me before it hated you. 19 If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you.
John 17:14,15 I [Jesus] have given them [His disciples] Thy [God's] Word; and the world hath hated them, because they are not of the world, even as I am not of the world. 15 I pray not that Thou shouldest take them out of the world, but that Thou shouldest keep them from the evil.
2 Corinthians 6:14,17 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness? 17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you.
James 4:4 Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? Whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.
1 Peter 4:2-4 He no longer should live the rest of his time in the flesh to the lusts of men, but to the will of God. 3 For the time past of our life may suffice us to have wrought the will of the Gentiles, when we walked in lasciviousness, lusts, excess of wine, revellings, banquetings, and abominable idolatries: 4 Wherein they think it strange that ye run not with them to the same excess of riot, speaking evil of you.


 Definition: A tender feeling toward another; fondness. To be affectionate: Having or showing warm regard or love, to be loving and tender.

1. As Christians, we should be known for our love and affection to one another.

Proverbs 18:24a A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly.
John 13:35 By this shall all men know that ye are My disciples, if ye have love one to another.
Romans 12:10a Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love.
Colossians 2:2a That their hearts might be comforted, being knit together in love.
Colossians 3:14 And above all these things put on charity [love], which is the bond of perfectness.
Hebrews 13:1 Let brotherly love continue.
1 Peter 3:8b Love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous.
1 John 3:11 For this is the message that ye heard from the beginning, that we should love one another.
1 John 4:21 And this commandment have we from Him, That he who loveth God love his brother  also.

2. Affectionate physical contact with others is one way of outwardly expressing our love.

Genesis 29:11-13 [Jacob, Rachel and her father, who were all relatives, exchange kisses, embraces and loving affection upon greeting one another]
Genesis 48:10b [Joseph's father, Israel, shows warm affection to his grandchildren:] And he brought them near unto him; and he kissed them, and embraced them.
1 Samuel 20:41b [David and his best friend, Jonathan, showed great affection one for another as they said good-bye:] David … fell on his face to the ground, and bowed himself three times: and they kissed one another, and wept one with another. …
Luke 7:44-46 And [Jesus] turned to the woman, and said unto Simon [the Pharisee], Seest thou this woman? I entered into thine house, thou gavest Me no water for My feet: but she hath washed My feet with tears, and wiped them with the hairs of her head. 45 Thou gavest Me no kiss: but this woman since the time I came in hath not ceased to kiss My feet. 46 My head with oil thou didst not anoint: but this woman hath anointed My feet with ointment.
John 13:23 [John's affection for Jesus:] Now there was leaning on Jesus' bosom one of His disciples, whom Jesus loved.
1 John 3:18 My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth.
Acts 20:1b Paul called unto him the disciples, and embraced them, and departed for to go into Macedonia.
1 Peter 5:14a Greet ye one another with a kiss of charity. [See also Romans 16:16; 1 Thessalonians 5:26]

3. God's true unselfish love should motivate us to be affectionate.

2 Corinthians 5:14a For the love of Christ constraineth [compels] us.
Philippians 2:1b-3 If there be … any comfort of love, if any fellowship of the Spirit, if any bowels and mercies, 2 Fulfill ye my joy, that ye be likeminded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind. 3 Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.
1 Timothy 1:5 Now the end of the commandment is charity out of a pure heart, and of a good conscience, and of faith unfeigned.
Colossians 3:23 And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men.
1 Peter 1:22 Seeing ye have purified your souls in obeying the truth through the Spirit unto unfeigned [unpretended, sincere] love of the brethren, see that ye love one another with a pure heart fervently.

4. We should make a special effort to show affection to those whom we would naturally not be inclined to.

Proverbs 3:27 Withhold not good from them to whom it is due, when it is in the power of thine hand to do it.
Matthew 25:40b [Jesus said:] Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these My brethren, ye have done it unto Me.
Luke 6:32 For if ye love them which love you, what thank have ye? For sinners  also love those that love them.
1 Corinthians 12:23a And those members of the body, which we think to be less honourable, upon these we bestow more abundant honour.
James 2:2-4a For if there come unto your assembly a man with a gold ring, in goodly apparel, and there come in  also a poor man in vile raiment; 3 And ye have respect to him that weareth the gay clothing, and say unto him, Sit thou here in a good place; and say to the poor, Stand thou there, or sit here under my footstool: 4 Are ye not then partial in yourselves…?
1 John 3:17 But whoso hath this world's good, and seeth his brother have need, and shutteth up his bowels of compassion from him, how dwelleth the love of God in him? [See also Deuteronomy 15:7,8]

5. Lack of affection is not a good sign. It is  also a sign of the Second Coming, characterizing attitudes during the Last Days.

Matthew 24:12 And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold.
Romans 1:31 [The ungodly are:] without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful.
2 Corinthians 6:11,12 O ye Corinthians, our mouth is open unto you, our heart is enlarged. 12 Ye are not straitened in us [we are not withholding affection from you], but ye are straitened in your own bowels [withholding affection from us].
2 Timothy 3:1-3a This know  also, that in the Last Days perilous times shall come. 2 For men shall be lovers of their own selves … 3a Without natural affection.

6. Loving affection should not be selfish gratification.

Ezekiel 33:31b For with their mouth they shew much love, but their heart goeth after their covetousness.
1 Corinthians 8:9 But take heed lest by any means this liberty of yours become a stumblingblock to them that are weak. [See also verse  12]
1 Corinthians 13:5a [Love] doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own.
Galatians 5:13 For, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another.
1 Pet 2:16 As free, and not using your liberty for a cloke of maliciousness, but as the servants of God.

7. Are there times when perhaps we should not express our affection outwardly?

Ecclesiastes 3:1,5b [Outward show of affection may not always be appropriate or expedient:] To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the Heaven. … 5b A time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing.
2 Corinthians 6:3 [Not when it would be misinterpreted or misunderstood:] Giving no offence in any thing, that the ministry be not blamed.

8. Some of the most touching passages in the Bible recount how special moments of forgiveness, reconciliation and friendship were sealed byActs of affection.

Genesis 33:1a,4 And Jacob lifted up his eyes, and looked, and, behold, Esau came.… 4 And Esau ran to meet him, and embraced him, and fell on his neck, and kissed him: and they wept.
Genesis 45:14,15 [Upon seeing his brothers after many years, Joseph:] fell upon his brother Benjamin's neck, and wept; and Benjamin wept upon his neck. 15 Moreover he kissed all his brethren, and wept upon them: and after that his brethren talked with him.
Ruth 1:14-17 And they lifted up their voice, and wept again: and Orpah kissed her mother in law; but Ruth clave unto her. 15 And she said, Behold, thy sister in law is gone back unto her people, and unto her gods: return thou after thy sister in law. 16 And Ruth said, Intreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God: 17 Where thou diest, will I die, and there will I be buried: the Lord do so to me, and more  also, if ought but death part thee and me.
1 Samuel 18:1,3,4 And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul. … 3 Then Jonathan and David made a covenant, because he loved him as his own soul. 4 And Jonathan stripped himself of the robe that was upon him, and gave it to David, and his garments, even to his sword, and to his bow, and to his girdle.
Mark 9:36,37 [Jesus' affection for children:] And He took a child, and set him in the midst of them: and when He had taken him in His arms, He said unto them, 37 Whosoever shall receive one of such children in My Name, receiveth Me: and whosoever shall receive Me, receiveth not Me, but Him [God] that sent Me.
Luke 15:20 [The Prodigal Son] arose, and came to his father. But when he was yet a great way off, his father saw him, and had compassion, and ran, and fell on his neck, and kissed him.
John 13:1-17 [Jesus' humble and loving example of affection by washing His disciples' feet:] Ye call Me Master and Lord: and ye say well; for so I am. 14 If I then, your Lord and Master, have washed your feet; ye  also ought to wash one another's feet.
Acts 20:37,38a And [the disciples] all wept sore, and fell on Paul's neck, and kissed him, 38 Sorrowing most of all for the words which he spake, that they should see his face no more. And they accompanied him unto the ship.



Definition: Aggressiveness has two contrasting definitions: The primary, being negative, means being inclined to act in a hostile manner; the secondary, but more positive meaning, refers to being bold, assertive or enterprising in getting things done. The first definition is the one explored in this section. See the section on "Boldness" for the second definition.

1. Pushy aggressiveness towards others is a worldly, carnal trait.

Romans 10:1-3 [Paul explains that the Jews were pushy in their service for God, but lacked really knowing the Lord:] Brethren, my heart's desire and prayer to God for Israel is, that they might be saved. 2 For I bear them record that they have a zeal of God, but not according to knowledge. 3 For they being ignorant of God's righteousness, and going about to establish their own righteousness, have not submitted themselves unto the righteousness of God.
Phil 3:6-7 [Paul knew the Jew's faults, because earlier, as Saul the Pharisee, his attitude was:] Concerning zeal, persecuting the Church; touching the righteousness which is in the law, blameless. 7 But what things were gain to me, those I counted loss for Christ.
John 18:36a Jesus answered, My Kingdom is not of this world: if My Kingdom were of this world, then would My servants fight. [See Matthew 26:52-54]
2 Timothy 2:24 And the servant of the Lord must not strive; but be gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient.
Matthew 5:38-41 Ye have heard that it hath been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth: 39 But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other  also. 40 And if any man will sue thee at the law, and take away thy coat, let him have thy cloke  also. 41 And whosoever shall compel thee to go a mile, go with him twain.
Mark 10:42-44 [Worldly leaders are often pushy and domineering, but we are taught to lead with meekness and love] But Jesus called them to Him, and saith unto them, Ye know that they which are accounted to rule over the Gentiles exercise lordship over them; and their great ones exercise authority upon them. 43 But so shall it not be among you: but whosoever will be great among you, shall be your minister: 44 And whosoever of you will be the chiefest, shall be servant of all.
Romans 13:13,14 Let us walk honestly, as in the day; not in rioting and drunkenness, not in chambering and wantonness, not in strife and envying. 14 But put ye on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make not provision for the flesh, to fulfil the lusts thereof.
1 Corinthians 3:3 For ye are yet carnal: for whereas there is among you envying, and strife, and divisions, are ye not carnal, and walk as men?
2 Corinthians 10:3 [Even though we are carnal people, we are learning to see things in the Spirit] For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh. [See also Colossians 1:29]

2. Aggressiveness is often a symptom of a me-first sort of pride and selfishness.

Proverbs 13:10a Only by pride cometh contention.
Galatians 5:26 Let us not be desirous of vain glory [conceit], provoking one another, envying one another.
Philippians 2:3,4 Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory [selfish ambition or conceit]; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. 4 Look not every man on his own things, but every man  also on the things of others.
James 4:1 From whence come wars and fightings among you? Come they not hence, even of your lusts that war in your members?

3. Aggressiveness between Christians undermines unity and hinders our sample.

Proverbs 18:19 [Once disunity is created through offenses, it takes great effort to patch it up] A brother offended is harder to be won than a strong city: and their contentions are like the bars of a castle.
Matthew 12:25 And Jesus knew their thoughts, and said unto them, Every kingdom divided against itself is brought to desolation; and every city or house divided against itself shall not stand.
Galatians 5:15-17 But if ye bite and devour one another, take heed that ye be not consumed one of another. 16 This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh. 17 For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.
Philippians 1:15-17 [Paul refers to the insincere, ungodly, selfish aggressiveness used by some Christians, contrasted with the loving support felt from others:] Some indeed preach Christ even of envy and strife; and some  also of good will: 16 The one preach Christ of contention … 17 But the other of love, knowing that I am set for the defence of the Gospel.
Philippians 2:14,15 Do all things without murmurings and disputings: 15 That ye may be blameless and harmless, the sons of God, without rebuke, in the midst of a crooked and perverse nation, among whom ye shine as lights in the world.

4. Worldly aggressiveness is completely contradictory to the ways of the Spirit.

Galatians 5:22,23 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, 23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.
James 3:14-18 But if ye have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth. 15 This wisdom descendeth not from above, but is earthly, sensual, devilish. 16 For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work. 17 But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy. 18 And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace.

5. If aggressiveness is the problem, more love and a spirit of meekness are the cure.

Proverbs 10:12 Hatred stirreth up strifes: but love covereth all sins. [See also 3:30]
Proverbs 25:15 [Meekness accomplishes much more than force] By long forbearing is a prince persuaded, and a soft tongue breaketh the bone.
Romans 14:19 Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, and things wherewith one may edify another.
1 Corinthians 2:3-5 [Paul, who had been overly aggressive as a Jew, learned to be meek, realizing how weak he was, yet relying on the power of God] And I was with you in weakness, and in fear, and in much trembling. 4 And my speech and my preaching was not with enticing words of man's wisdom, but in demonstration of the Spirit and of power: 5 That your faith should not stand in the wisdom of men, but in the power of God. [See also 2 Corinthians 11:29,30; 13:9]
1 Corinthians 13:4,5 Charity [Love] suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, 5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil.
1 Corinthians 10:24 [Be aggressive in helping others, not yourself] Let no man seek his own, but every man another's wealth.
2 Corinthians 1:24 [The Apostles were not domineering] Not for that we have dominion over your faith, but are helpers of your joy: for by faith ye stand.
Ephesians 4:2 With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love.
1 Peter 3:4 But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
1 Peter 5:5 Likewise, ye younger, submit yourselves unto the elder. Yea, all of you be subject one to another, and be clothed with humility: for God resisteth the proud, and giveth grace to the humble.



Definitions: A strong feeling of displeasure and usually of opposition toward someone or something, often brought about by real or imagined injury; rage; fury; wrath. Anger is a broad term that applies to various levels of emotion that may or may not be shown. Temper, as used here refers to "the tendency to be easily angered."

1. God's Word warns us not to yield to anger and wrath.

James 1:19,20 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath: 20 For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.
Psalm 37:8 Cease from anger, and forsake wrath: fret not thyself in any wise to do evil.
Ecclesiastes 7:9 Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools.

2. Anger creates a breach in our spiritual defenses.

Proverbs 16:32 He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city. [See also Proverbs 14:29]
Proverbs 25:28 He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.

3. Anger often results from pride and selfishness.

Proverbs 21:24 Proud and haughty scorner is his name, who dealeth in proud wrath.
James 4:1 From whence come wars and fightings among you? Come they not hence, even of your lusts that war in your members?

4. If we give place to ungodly anger, we will be the ones to suffer.

Proverbs 19:19a A man of great wrath shall suffer punishment.
Proverbs 25:8 Go not forth hastily to strive, lest thou know not what to do in the end thereof, when thy neighbour hath put thee to shame.
Matthew 5:22a But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the Judgment.
Romans 12:19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is Mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.

5. A wise man controls his temper because he knows it leads to mistakes and even greater problems.

Numbers 20:7,8,10-12; Psalm 106:32,33 [Moses' outburst of anger caused him to lose the blessing and privilege of leading his people into the Promised Land:] The Lord spake unto Moses, saying, 8 Take the rod … and speak ye unto the rock before their eyes [the rebellious congregation]; and it shall give forth his water…. 10 Moses … said unto them, Hear now, ye rebels; must we fetch you water out of this rock? 11 And Moses lifted up his hand, and with his rod he smote the rock twice: and the water came out abundantly, and the congregation drank, and their beasts  also. 12 And the Lord spake unto Moses and Aaron, Because ye believed Me not, to sanctify Me in the eyes of the children of Israel, therefore ye shall not bring this congregation into the land which I have given them. Psalm 106:32,33 They angered him [Moses] also at the waters of strife, so that it went ill with Moses for their sakes: 33 Because they provoked his spirit, so that he spake unadvisedly with his lips.
Proverbs 29:11 A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards.
Proverbs 14:17a He that is soon angry dealeth foolishly.
Proverbs 14:29 He that is slow to wrath is of great understanding: but he that is hasty of spirit exalteth folly.
Proverbs 19:11 The discretion [good judgement] of a man deferreth his anger; and it is his glory to pass over a transgression.
Proverbs 29:22 An angry man stirreth up strife, and a furious man aboundeth in transgression.
Ecclesiastes 5:2,6a Be not rash with thy mouth, and let not thine heart be hasty to utter any thing before God: for God is in Heaven, and thou upon earth: therefore let thy words be few. 6a Suffer not thy mouth to cause thy flesh to sin.

6. An even wiser man or woman helps others to control their tempers.

Proverbs 15:1a A soft answer turneth away wrath but grievous [harsh] words stir up anger. [See also Proverbs 29:8b]
Proverbs 15:18b He that is slow to anger appeaseth [pacifies] strife.
Genesis 13:7-9 [Abraham wisely appeases strife which arose between his and his nephew, Lot's herdsmen] And there was a strife between the herdmen of Abram's cattle and the herdmen of Lot's cattle: 8 And Abram said unto Lot, Let there be no strife, I pray thee, between me and thee, and between my herdmen and thy herdmen; for we be brethren. 9 Is not the whole land before thee? Separate thyself, I pray thee, from me: if thou wilt take the left hand, then I will go to the right; or if thou depart to the right hand, then I will go to the left.
  1 Samuel 25:1-35 [Abigail wisely pacifies the anger of Israel's king-to-be, David, as he sought to kill her husband:] 32 David said to Abigail, Blessed be the Lord God of Israel, which sent thee this day to meet me: 33 And blessed be thy advice, and blessed be thou, which hast kept me this day from coming to shed blood, and from avenging myself with mine own hand.

7. We are to forsake anger and pray for the Lord to replace anger with love, patience, meekness and forgiveness.

1 Corinthians 13:5 [Love] doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
Ephesians 4:31,32 Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: 32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.
Colossians 3:8,12-15 But now ye  also put off all these; anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth. 12 Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; 13 Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so  also do ye. 14 And above all these things put on charity, which is the bond of perfectness. 15 And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which  also ye are called in one body; and be ye thankful.
Ephesians 4:26b Let not the sun go down upon your wrath.
[See also James 3:17,18]

8. Though the "wrath of man" is to be shunned, there is a time for "righteous indignation" or godly anger, a time to speak out against evil, wrongdoing and injustice. But we must be sure it is God's anger, not our own.

Proverbs 25:23 The north wind driveth away rain: so doth an angry countenance a backbiting tongue.
Ephesians 4:26a Be ye angry, and sin not.
Judges 14:19; 15:14,15; 16:28-30 [The Lord anointed Samson several times to be angry and used this anger to defeat the enemies of His people] And the Spirit of the Lord came upon him, and he went down to Ashkelon, and slew thirty men of them, and took their spoil…. 15:14,15 The Philistines shouted against him: and the Spirit of the Lord came mightily upon him, and the cords that were upon his arms became as flax that was burnt with fire, and his bands loosed from off his hands. 15 And he found a new jawbone of an ass, and put forth his hand, and took it, and slew a thousand men therewith. 16:28-30 And Samson called unto the Lord, and said, O Lord God, remember me, I pray Thee, and strengthen me, I pray Thee, only this once, O God, that I may be at once avenged of the Philistines for my two eyes. 29 And Samson took hold of the two middle pillars upon which the house stood.… 30 And he bowed himself with all his might; and the house fell upon the lords, and upon all the people that were therein. So the dead which he slew at his death were more than they which he slew in his life.
Mark 3:5 [Jesus Himself was frequently stirred up with godly anger, such as the time His hypocritical religious enemies were watching to see if He would break the Laws of Moses by healing the man with the shrivelled hand on their holy day, the Sabbath:] And when He had looked round about on them with anger, being grieved for the hardness of their hearts, He saith unto the man, Stretch forth thine hand. And he stretched it out: and his hand was restored whole as the other. [See verses  1-4]
John 2:14-16 [The crowning example of Jesus' anger was when He found certain religionists robbing and exploiting the poor in the Name of God:] And [Jesus] found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves, and the changers of money sitting: 15 And when He had made a scourge [whip] of small cords, He drove them all out of the temple, and the sheep, and the oxen; and poured out the changers' money, and overthrew the tables; 16 And said unto them that sold doves, Take these things hence; make not My Father's house an house of merchandise.